Once bitten twice shy?
How can you trust your partner again when he lied so successfully in order to hide his infidelity in marriage?
Can you be reasonably sure that you can spot such lies in the future?
After experiencing infidelity in marriage, can you eventually trust again and hopefully build a stronger relationship?
Trust always takes time to rebuild. Sometimes the injured partner needs proof to be able to move forward. Tools like polygraph tests and expert human lie detectors do exist. But none are 100% accurate and all are expensive.
Infidelity in marriage can be overcome. Start by introducing transparency into the relationship as this helps rebuild trust. Ask your partner to avoid or immediately and voluntarily explain situations that can be misinterpreted by you. Some examples (which you should discuss with your partner) of situations that prevent trust from growing after infidelity in marriage are:
- unexplained payments
- unscheduled absences
- cannot be reached by phone, etc.
Better communications help reduce suspicions and therefore build trust. In addition, keeping each other informed of one's activities when apart enhances confidence and helps overcome the issues created by infidelity in marriage. It is vital that you avoid interpreting every situation in a negative way, especially when a perfectly valid explanation is offered.
Transparency in a marital relationship is a concept covered extensively in Dr. Frank Gunzburg Ph.D.'s program How To Survive An Affair. In Dr. Gunzburg's experience, couples find that the rebuilding of trust in their relationships to be one of the biggest hurdles to leap in repairing the damage caused by infidelity in marriage. This process takes a great deal of work and effort. If the leap to transparency is too large for you, you might need the additional help you will find in Dr. Gunzburg's program How to Survive An Affair.
Both of you will be going through a growth process, maybe learning new ways of relating to one another that you've never tried before. Each of you will want to make a self-commitment to conducting yourself in a trustworthy way over a period of time. Infidelity in marriage demands this commitment in order to create a new and stronger framework within which to rebuild your relationship.
My best wishes for you to find the path to creating a wonderful relationship free of infidelity in marriage.
Here's what you will learn when you invest in
Phase I: Individual Healing - Understanding Personal Feelings and Sorting through Emotions
- My Spouse Had An Affair - How To Manage Your Emotions
- Handling Your Inner Struggle - How To Heal Yourself From The Plague Of Negative Thoughts
- The Cheating Partner - How To Cope With Your Emotions And Restore Trust With Your Partner
- How Does An Affair Start? - Understanding Why It Happened And What It's Going To Take To Heal
Phase II: Healing As a Couple - Working Together to Identify and Resolve Key Issues
- Preparing For Recovery - Steps For Moving Towards Healing
- Communicating Your Feelings - A Step-By-Step For Talking
Phase III: Negotiating a Renewed Relationship - Understanding How to Rebuild and Sustain a New Trust-filled Partnership
- Restoring The Trust - Learn How To Become Totally Transparent
- Rebuilding Your Life Together - How To Develop A Strong, Stable Relationship
- Accepting The Past And Moving On To A Brighter Future - Learning To Accept The Affair In Order To Move On With Your Life Together
- Protecting Your Promise - The Relationship Contract
Don't put off healing for too long; it can eventually cause irreparable damage.